Do you sometimes feel like you are stuck in the doldrums? For many years I struggled in February. By that time I had had enough of winter. I had no energy, and I was basically unhappy with everything. Years ago I decided that I must suffer from SAD; Seasonal Affective Disorder. Once I realized that this might be the case, I made an effort to get outside more often. I bought a car with a sunroof so that I could experience more light on my way to and from work. (Later is was a convertible and the hours logged with the top down exceeded those with the top up - even in winter!) I walked to lunch when I was at work. I'd stay outside when I got home and play with the kids or the dogs. It did seem to work. My attitude was a bit better.
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Currently I get a daily email called, "Start TODAY" that recaps segments of the TODAY Show. Sometimes I find interesting links. Thursday's message had a teaser link stating, "two questions to ask yourself daily to feel joy and feel more content.
The therapist (Niro Feliciano) in this synopsis of a recent TODAY show suggested that when people feel the way I often felt, they try to imagine the joy they will experience when they attain a goal in the future. Perhaps one of those ideas/goals you thought about at the first of the year! She described our lives as if we are living between the goal posts. I loved the imagery of that! But, she said that focusing on the big goals might not bring joy as that accomplishment may still be far off.
What Niro suggested instead is to practice gratitude and be in the moment. She suggested a daily reflection where you celebrate your successes, no matter how small, and that will give you feelings of gratitude and contentment. To do this, the therapist recommended two questions to ask yourself daily:
- What are you proud of?
- What did you enjoy?
She explained that these can be very small moments of your day. For me, I might list making my bed as something I was proud of. I always feel better when the bedroom appears orderly, but a lot of mornings, I feel too rushed or too lazy to take the time (all about 2 minutes?!) And something I might have enjoyed is reading some posts of my blog friends. Niro suggests writing your answers to the two questions in a journal, or in an app....I just answered them in this blog post! It was suggested that you reflect on these questions daily. Hmmmm, maybe I'll add that at the end of my posts! There's an idea!
So, what about you? How are you feeling today? What are you proud of? What did you enjoy? Surely, there is something in each day that is the answer for you!
I have clinical depression, managed fairly well by two medications. I'm not proud of it, but I am thankful that they help. I'm proud of the beautiful horses I bred and raised. That will always be a sense of accomplishment for me.
ReplyDeleteMy son has suffered with depression most of his life. He was wise enough to seek help, and he continues to do so. Yay you for the beautiful horses!
DeleteToday I am proud that I rolled out my yoga mat and did my morning routine since I've been very lax about that lately. And that could be the answer to the second question, since the day is still young, as well. I do enjoy it.
ReplyDeleteAh, my yoga mat needs to have the dust shaken off of it as well! Thanks for the reminder! I always do feel better having moved my body!
DeleteWhat a brilliant idea!
ReplyDeleteYesterday I was looking for two specific photos in my computer picture files. In that quest, I looked at pictures in the Donation Quilts file and the Gifted Quilts file and felt a deep down satisfaction at the many quilts of different sizes that now live with other people in other places around the world. Some of those people I know, some I love, and some I'll never know. It's all good.
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Yes, I find that it feels good to do for others!
DeleteProud that I could make it up a flight of stairs today! May not sound like much but it was a rough night with RA pain. I enjoy reading your blog!
ReplyDeleteI am proud of being able to remain active at age 82.
ReplyDeleteWhat a delightful bit of self-reflection. Today, I'm proud of the fact that managed to put up a cattle panel archway by myself yesterday! I'm still riding the high from that.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed the sense of accomplishment and imagining what it's going to look like with sweet pea vines covering it this summer.